So this is what trust looks like.
Funny, my first thought was “So this is what the patriarchy looks like.”
Yup. This is how women are supposed to trust men. With their lives.
Woman : “Hey, can we just… Drop the bow?”
Man : “WHY DON’T YOU TRUST ME I’M NOT A VIOLENT GUY, YOU ARE INSULTING ME THINKING I WILL HURT YOU!!!”
Woman : “No it’s just… Well I’m afraid.”
Man : “But why? Look at me, I’m not afraid. And we’re equal, look, we pull the bow together.”
Woman : “I think we’re not equal, you can kill me with the arrow and I can’t.”
Man : “What? So you would like to be able to kill me? You’re so agressive!”
Woman : “That’s not what I mean, we were talking about equality : you can hurt me, I can’t.”
Man : “Of course you can. You can hit me with the bow if you want.”
Woman : “That’s not the same thing, it will never kill you.”
Man : “Oh, you always complaining, stop victimising yourself! Do I talk about the difficulty of holding the arrow? Of the responsibility it gives to me?”
Every debates about gender equality, ladies and gentleman.
This is the first time something I’ve reblogged with a comment has come back around to me after having a bunch added to it.
I think it’s fantastic that my little thought was expanded upon so fully. I was also thinking, as I reblogged initially, how we often forget that all members of society are complicit in sexism. Most women happily hold the bow while the arrow points straight at their chests. If they did not, the tension and the danger would vanish…but so would the bonds between them and everything they’ve ever known. The structure of their universe would dissolve. Questioning culture is a very difficult thing to do.
This is one of the earlier works by performance artist Marina Abramovic.
It’s called “Rest Energy”.
The performance is fascinating because Ulay (the man pulling back the arrow, who is also her lover) and Marina both have microphones taped to their chests so their heartbeats could be heard.
As time went on, their heartbeats were getting faster and faster.
The performance lasted only four minutes and ten seconds, but for that time, which I’m sure felt like an eternity for them, they had complete and total trust in one another.
Being a fan of Marina I wanted to explain the context, but I never thought about this being a performance of gender inequality.
REALLY love the above comments.